The Christian Way to be Happily Married

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Title: The Christian Way to be Happily Married
Author: David Sanderlin, Ph.D.
Format: Paperback
Pages: 252
ISBN: 9780982439630
LCCN: 2009905263

Book of the Month

The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB) selected the book as
BOOK OF THE MONTH (December 2011) for their For Your Marriage website.

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Description of the book

In this ecumenical Catholic marriage guide for engaged and married couples, Dr. David Sanderlin draws from the teachings of Jesus, saints, and spiritual reformers to show how couples can be happily married not only by using conventional communication and relationship skills, but also, above all, by following Jesus with love, wisdom, faith, patience, gratitude, and other Christian virtues and gifts. This Christian Way to be happily married is good for non-Christians too. It is good for all couples to love their partner and treat their partner well, with love, wisdom, and other virtues.

The author draws from Jesus, Paul, Thomas Aquinas, John of the Cross, Teresa of Avila, Catherine of Siena, John Wesley, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, and other saints and spiritual reformers to show how couples can be happily married by following Jesus during their ordinary marriage and family activities in a loving Christian marriage discipleship. Couples can learn from this marriage guide:
*How to deal with money, housework, and other practical marriage and family matters with the love and wisdom of Jesus, saints, and spiritual reformers;
*How to grow from an emotional romantic love or a conventional needs love to a Christ-like transforming love;
*How to seek a profound Christian Happiness centered on God and virtue instead of a conventional secular happiness focused on worldly goods.

The Christian Way to be Happily Married, with over 350 endnotes, includes a "Christian Marriage Discipleship Check-Up" for couples and "Discussion Questions" for participants in church marriage workshops, Christian college classes on marriage and the family, and other groups dealing with Christian marriage, ethics, and spirituality.

Praise for The Christian Way to be Happily Married

"Many treatments of Christian marriage are superficial. Not this book. Dr. David Sanderlin has plumbed the depths of Christian spirituality and drawn from the best of the Catholic tradition to show how marriage is a profound call to holiness. Sanderlin shows how the call to discipleship and deep union with God can unfold in the heart of the marriage relationship. For couples wanting 'more', this is the book."
-----Ralph Martin, President of Renewal Ministries; author of The Fulfillment of All Desire and other books on Catholic thought; co-host of EWTN's television program, The Choices We Face.

In The Christian Way to be Happily Married, David Sanderlin helps couples grow in a deeply human and profoundly spiritual love for their partner and for God, thereby integrating their marriage relationship with their relationship with God. This book is an excellent resource not only for couples, but also for pastors, counselors, teachers, and others involved in Christian marriage ministry and education."
-----Marilyn M. Marshall, Ph.D., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist; college psychology professor; member Secular Franciscan Order.

"In this outstanding Christian marriage guide, David Sanderlin draws from Jesus, saints, and spiritual reformers to help couples follow Jesus in the profound Biblical sense of becoming increasingly loving, virtuous, Christ-like persons during their ordinary marriage and family activities. An excellent book!"
-----Father Kieran Kavanaugh, O.C.D., translator, editor, and commentator, The Collected Works of St. John of the Cross and The Collected Works of St. Teresa of Avila.

"The Christian Way to be Happily Married is an important and excellent book that, when applied, will improve marriages and people's lives."
-----David R. Wall, book reviewer for The Sword: A Journal of Historical, Spiritual and Contemporary Carmelite Issues in his book review for this journal (Vol. 71, No. 2, 2011).

The Christian Way to be Happily Married "leads readers step by step through an examination of 'the Christian way to be happily married by following Jesus in the Biblical sense of becoming like Jesus in our moral character and conduct, with love, wisdom, and other Christian virtues during our ordinary marriage and family activities' . . . the Christian transformation Sanderlin ultimately considers a worthy goal for spouses involves much more than achieving better control of one's emotions or improving personal self-management. It is a transformed Christian life as some of the great spiritual masters understood it that Sanderlin appears to have in mind."
-----David Gibson, former editor of Origins, CNS Documentary News Service (Catholic News Service), quoted from his review of the book in the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB) For Your Marriage website.

About the Author

David Sanderlin (Ph.D., University of Notre Dame) is a retired college professor and author of many books and articles on Christian spirituality, ethics, and other topics, including Putting on the New Self: A Guide to Personal Development and Community Living (Christian Classics publishers). Dr. Sanderlin's work on the spirituality and virtue ethic of St. John of the Cross, considered one of the greatest Catholic saints and mystics, has been featured in scholarly articles associated with Cambridge University, Georgetown University, and the Carmelite Institute in Rome. Dr. Sanderlin and his wife Arnell have been happily married for over 48 years. They have four children and eleven grandchildren.